巧克力
恋爱 Love and Dating

珍妮在地铁里坐下,打开自己的IPOD电脑。JOE在上一站下了车,他建议他们开始认真交往,换句话说,他们将开始同床共枕。
她想着他深黑色的眼睛和他可爱的笑容,他确实曾使她感到特别,他甚至告诉她他爱她。然后,她想到了她的同学——克洛伊。
克洛伊曾和她的男朋友坠入爱河,他说他爱她,要和她结婚。他们同居了,随后他一直更改着结婚日期,最后他搬了出去,和别的女人结了婚。
珍妮甩了甩头,她不想犯错,但也不想错过真爱。她爱JOE吗?JOE真的爱她吗?她如何能知道呢?

打一个比方:
女士们,想象你有一盒特殊的巧克力,它们非常昂贵,而且你以后不会再拥有同样的巧克力了。
想象一下你给了每个你喜欢的男人一块这个盒子里的巧克力。而现在这个盒子已经空了。但你却遇到了一个你非常爱的男人,恨不得把一盒子的巧克力都给他,可盒子里已经没有东西了。
性也是如此,它是表达真爱的方式。并非某种随意派发的东西。

性不仅仅是身体行为。它包含着强烈的情感和心灵层面,没有比它更隐私的行为了。

我们不可能把自己的钱财物品交给某个不了解或不信任的人手中,但却有人把自己交了出去?这真是匪夷所思。

即便在经济时代,你也不可能在没有付钱的情况下得到产品,通过交易,你用现金换得产品,你承诺购买该产品。在公司里,人们在对一切条件满意的情况下才可能签定劳动合同。

没有工作或者产品比你的心更有价值,任何人想要你的心,他就必须先付出承诺。那个承诺就是婚姻。

某些人为了要跟你上床会说任何话。但爱不是话语,它是行为,它是耐心,宽容,温柔,无私的。很多男人会承诺如果跟他上床他会与你结婚。再次重申,承诺只是话语。不要仅仅屈服于话语。一个真正爱你的男人会尊重你,他爱你的心而不仅仅是你的身体,他会等候你。

同样,如果男人在没有跟你结婚的情况下跟你发生了关系,他可能不觉得这样有什么不对,他也可以在不结婚的前提下和别的女人发生同样的事情。你一定不希望这是你生活的一部分。

女士们,尝试一下这个测试:如果一个你喜欢的男人给你压力要发生性关系,并说他爱你,这样做:拒绝他,然后告诉他如果不想毁掉你们的关系的话就开始计划结婚吧。告诉他他能在新婚当晚得到你。如果他同意并开始准备结婚,说明他真的爱你,如果他感到不快,那他并不爱你,而且可能他也有别的女人。

上述智慧来自《圣经》,上帝爱你,他要保护你的心远离那些糟糕的情侣关系。《圣经》教导我们,上帝是爱。

上帝不仅仅创造了人,他也创立了婚姻。他的《圣经》告诉了我们什么是真爱。
“爱是耐心的,爱是善良的。爱不嫉妒,不自吹自擂,不自高自大。爱不粗鲁,不自私自利,爱不是暴躁的,不记别人的过错。爱不喜欢邪恶,爱为真理而欢欣。爱包容一切,爱总是信任,爱总是希望着,爱一贯是坚强的。爱没有止境。” 哥林多前书13:4-8a

by 德明; Chinese by Judy & Una

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ANGEL SAT DOWN in the subway train and turned up her iPod. She had just left Joe at the previous stop. He had suggested they begin dating seriously. In other words, they would begin sleeping together.
She thought of his deep dark eyes and his cute smile. He did make her feel special. He had even told her that he loved her. Then she thought of her classmate, Chloe.
She had been in love with her boyfriend. He said that he loved her and wanted to marry her. They moved in together, but he kept changing the wedding date. Eventually he moved out and married another woman.
Angel shook her head. She didn't want to make a mistake. She also didn't want to miss out on true love.
Did she really love Joe? Did he really love her? How could she know?


AN ANALOGY:
Ladies, imagine you had a special a box of chocolates. These were very expensive and you know you will never have another box like this again.
Imagine then you decided to give one chocolate to every man you liked. Imagine now the box is empty, and into your life walks a man you fall in love with. You would like to give him the whole box of chocolates, but you have nothing left.
The same applies to sex. It is an expression of true love. It is not something to be casually given away.


SEX IS MORE than a physical act. It is intensely emotional and spiritual. There is no act more personal.


WE WOULDN'T give our money or possessions to someone we don't know or trust. Why then do some people give themselves? It is poor judgement.


EVEN IN THE COMMERCIAL WORLD you cannot have a product until you have paid for it. By exchanging your cash for the product, you are committing to the purchase. In companies, people do not sign the employment contract until they are happy with the conditions.


NO JOB OR PRODUCT is worth as much as your heart. Anyone who wants you to give your heart needs to make the commitment. That commitment is marriage.


SOME PEOPLE will say anything to sleep with you. But, love is not words. Love is action*. Love is patient, kind, gentle, selfless. Many men will promise to marry you if you sleep with them. Again, promises are just words. Don't give in. The man who really loves you will respect you. He will love your heart and not just your body. He will wait for you.


REMEMBER ALSO, if the man has slept with you without marrying you, he probably won't see anything wrong with sleeping with other women he is not married to. You don't want a life like that.


LADIES, try this test. If a man you like is pressing you into sex because he says he loves you, do this: Refuse and tell him instead of trying to destroy the relationship, he should be making wedding plans. Tell him he can have you on the wedding night. If he agrees, and begins making serious plans, he does love you. If he gets upset, he doesn't love you, and has probably had other women as well.


THE ABOVE WISDOM is from the Bible. God loves you and wants your heart protected from bad relationships. The Bible teaches that God is love.


God not only made all people, He also invented marriage. His Bible shows us real love.
"Love is patient, and love is kind. Love is not jealous, it does not boast, and it is not proud. Love is not rude, love is not selfish, and love does not become angry easily. Love does not remember wrongs done against it. Love is not happy with evil, but love is happy with the truth. Love patiently accepts all things. Love always trusts, always hopes, and always continues strong. Love never ends. " 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a

by 德明; Chinese by Judy & Una

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